One comment I always receive is how cute my mom friends are and how lucky I am to have such a supportive group of women in the exact same season of life.
I realize how rare that bond is and how challenging it can be to find.
When I moved back to Columbus, after living in Chicago for 5 years, I had lots of old friends but none who were new or soon-to-be moms. I remember feeling these exact same fears.
The truth is, just like our romantic relationships, making mom friends and cultivating meaning friendships takes just as much work. These things don’t just happen by osmosis.
Here are my tips for how to make mom friends:
- Don’t be shy! The chances are high that just like you other mamas are seeking companionship too. Introduce yourself to the mama + baby duo you always see at storytime or on your morning walk. Fitness classes are a great place to meet other moms who have similar interests too!
- Take things offline. Do you always chat it up online with the sweet mama from the next town over? Make the first move and DM her for coffee or schedule a playdate with your kiddos.
- Friends of Friends. I was introduced to some of the sweetest mamas through friends, most of which weren’t moms themselves. Ask your crew if they have any awesome babes that are moms and see if they’ll make an introduction.
- Organize a moms night out. Don’t wait for an invite, sometimes YOU have to be the initiator. Schedule some much needed time out of the house (preferably with wine) and have your new mom friends each bring one of theirs! It’s a great way to expand your group.
- Be an includer. Once you’ve found your mom tribe, don’t be cliquey. Be the woman who initiates convo with the mama standing alone and introduce her to your friends.
I value ALL of my friends in every walk of life dearly but those with kids and in a similar season of life help make those early years feel much less lonely, a little less crazy and a lot more fun!
Curious: how do you connect with other moms? how do you make mom friends?
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